By: Siyona Singhal

Local Editor 

Too many students feel the weight of their parents’ expectations on their shoulders. They deal with impossible standards and the pressure to constantly be better. Whether it is sports or academics, the effects of increased pressure can be damaging for a child. They often develop depression and low self-esteem, tending to distance themselves from their parents and others around them. Physically, parental pressure can lead to less sleep, eating disorders, or other stress-related illnesses. The mental burden of high expectations greatly weighs on kids who are already overwhelmed by the world. Parents must not put too much pressure on their children.

A study was conducted by the National Library of Medicine in which 29 parents of adolescents around the age of 15 were interviewed about the amount of pressure they put on their children. 86% of parents said they only want the best for their children. They want their children to succeed and flourish; however, it is important to maintain a balance between pushing students and supporting them. Parents today seem to cross the line more often and can overwhelm their children with the amount of pressure they exert, only serving to create more anxiety in their children. Though it comes from a place of love, parental pressure can be devastating to a child’s future and well-being, the opposite intentions of the parents. 

Parents should remember that their children deserve to enjoy themselves and have fun in their youth. High school students are already drowning in stress from homework and studying, but adding pressure from their parents to excel in sports, academics, or anything else can break them. Parents should remember that it’s okay if their child is not the best at everything they do. People are talented in different areas, and this also applies to kids. Parents supporting and uplifting their kids is just as important as making sure they succeed. No student should feel like they will never be good enough. 

Parents should focus on building a healthy relationship with their children and maintaining respect and trust with each other. Author Jennifer Breheny Wallace says, “Make home a mattering haven. Let our children know their worth is not contingent on performance.” It’s important that kids feel cared for and valued. Parents can accomplish this by encouraging their kids, using kind words more often than harsh ones. Wallace believes that this can lead to increased confidence and a healthier mindset in their child. In the long run, it is more important that kids enjoy their childhood and can look back with fondness on those years, rather than feel regret or despair for not getting a certain test score or getting into a certain college. It is easy for parents to overburden their kids with high standards, but they must keep in mind that no matter how old or how young their child is, they deserve to have fun and enjoy their life.

If you’re a student who feels overwhelmed by their parents, it’s important to talk to them. The first step to a healthy relationship is communication. Don’t be afraid to speak out about your feelings; your parents just want to help you thrive.

(Sources: National Library of Medicine, Washington Post, NY Times)